Machismo
Machismo (mä-chēz’mō)
n.
- A strong or exaggerated sense of masculinity stressing attributes such as physical courage, virility, domination of women, and aggressiveness.
- An exaggerated sense of strength or toughness: “People prefer raw-milk cheese for its subtlety and depth of flavor, not out of some kind of foodie machismo” (Corby Kummer).
Before seeing that definition and the story i’ll be telling you in this posting, all i have in mind about someone being called macho is the one who is courteously attentive especially to women and chivalrous. This is the first impression i got from my cultural surrounding. In my daily life a man being called macho is the one who is very strong to help the woman or gallant in such a way.
Sometimes, when a man refuse or hesitant to help the woman, we often curse “omg, you’re very NOT macho!” This definition of machismo leads more to cowardice, ungentle, and weakness.
But it all has changed, so last month my mother had to assist one family came from African Country (my mother is a social pedagogue working for the Catholic Church Foundation). She said that the wife was so unhappy with her life because her husband was macho.
“Isn’t it macho man good for her? because maybe he can protect her” asked me innocently.
“Absolutely not!!” said her. “Do you know macho? machismo? That’s when man thinks that he’s superior than woman. He relies on the woman and put all the burdens to her. He doesn’t want to cook (he isn’t able but he never tries to learn, to do the dish, Cleaning up the house, shopping for the daily needs. All is woman’s job”
“Wow really? i thought it was kinda cool, like, Gentle or gallant” replied me.
“Nope, then you must be mistaken”
So i tried to make a little research to my German brother, so at that day he didn’t want to put all the cutlery into the silver ware cabinet and i spontaneously said “OMG you’re so macho”.
And he stared at me shockingly and said “No way, i cook for you this week, 3 times!! i’m not macho at all”
His statement affirmed the concept of machismo being told by my mother.
Today i was chatting with Nassim and asking whether he cooked often or not for himself in the US,
he answered “I have no mood to cook, i like to make salad, it’s easy”
I cheekily responded “You’re so macho”
He answered “i’m sorry, but i can cook, okay?!!” like being offended.
“Hahahaha it’s okay, i know what macho really is” i answered. giggly.
Then he sent me this video from youtube :
“look at the link i sent you,that’s macho” he asked
We laughed.
ok, i think now i know what a macho man really is 
Anyway for all the man who read my posting, ask yourself : ARE YOU A MACHO MAN?
